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Self-reflection quiz

Mental load and overwhelm quiz

The invisible list you carry for everyone else

A self-reflection quiz about cognitive labour — the planning, remembering and anticipating that rarely appears on anyone's to-do list. Not a clinical instrument.

10 questions · about 2 min · nothing is stored

I am the person who remembers the appointments, forms and birthdays.
I anticipate other people's needs before they mention them.
I keep a running list in my head that never fully shuts off.
I get asked 'what's for dinner' as if it were my job alone.
I re-explain the same task because it was not tracked by anyone else.
I feel responsible when something at home falls through.
My rest is interrupted by reminders of what still needs doing.
I have stopped asking for help because delegating takes longer.
I know everyone's schedule better than my own.
I feel invisible in the work that keeps the household running.
This is not a diagnosis. Results are for reflection and for conversations with a qualified professional. If you are in crisis, contact your local emergency number.

Last reviewed: 2026-10-27. Written in plain language, reviewed against published sources.

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